Simply Sather


We’re going into the deep of the holidays now. You feel it?

We’re busy with the cooking, cleaning, shopping and inviting. Busy with all that comes with Christmas Cards, the ordering and shipping of packages and of course the decorating. Some of us are hosting, others of are traveling. The season is in full swing!

And with all that is happening, I believe that now is THE time to start planning a soul care retreat.


Even if you’re not sure what a soul care retreat is or how you would make one happen for you, let me share 10 reasons why I believe every adult qualifies for and actually needs a soul care retreat.

Read and mark a tally for each statement that is currently true or will likely be true for you as the holiday train picks up speed.

1. You are overwhelmed.

2. Your schedule/routine steals your joy.

3. You don’t know what to do when you have “free time” or “down time”.

4. You aren’t sleeping well.

5. You are so distracted you think you’re multi-tasking (and that it’s working for you).

6. You ate your last few meals (or more) standing over your sink or while driving in your car.

7. You’re unsure what your next step is.

8. You need a few dozen quiet moments in consecutive order; moments where people are not calling you by the role/capacity you serve them in (wife, mother, boss, employee, teammate, volunteer, daughter, friend)

9. You can’t recall the last time you set aside waking time to dream

10. Someone told you that you needed a soul care retreat

If you marked down one or more tally marks, then a soul care retreat is for you.


Simply put…

A soul care retreat is a time away from your routine. It is personalized for you, you + your spouse or a small team of 10 people or less. The personalized itinerary takes into account activities and environments that you enjoy, places that help you relax and rest and are designed to help you dig into what’s happening in your soul or the culture of your team’s dynamic.

I’ve planned the activities around getaways, vacations and retreats that have already been pre-scheduled, but I have retreat packages that include my planning your stay, making your reservations and even helping you to figure out where to eat.

Simply Sather Soul Care Retreats are designed to help you break away from stress, stuck + overwhelm in order to tend to your soul.


Many of us tend to the needs and desires of others.

We do this for our spouses, our children, our employees or co-workers. We do this as we lead small groups at church or teams where we volunteer. We give up hours and hours loving on, paying attention to and caring for everyone else.

Then we look up and it’s Thanksgiving and we’re making the mashed potatoes and gravy wondering when we’ll have some time to truly sit, rest our bodies and minds to think and reflect on what’s happening deep within ourselves. Or we bury the hope of having time to be bored, to allow our minds to wander or to take a nap without it being a “power” one.

Planning your retreat now makes it a priority. Even if it doesn’t happen until February next year, it gives you something to look forward to. An intentional time set aside for you and whoever will join you on this retreat to tend to your souls, to sit in silence and connect or re-connect on a level you haven’t had or made time for in the recent past.

I’ve planned four of these retreats in the last six months, but the first one I planned this year was our own. You can read about it here.



It was a remarkable time for us. I know that I couldn’t stop talking about it to others. So much so that it became clear that I was to help others make time to tend to their souls in this way.

With our culture keeping us in yeses and filled spots on our calendar, it can be hard to wrap our brains around the idea of 48 to 72 hours off the grid to get away, break the routine and rest our souls. I plan and personalize a lot of the retreat based upon the retreat package you choose and pray for everything you desire to come to fruition; especially for you to have an encounter with your Creator that speaks to you in the depths of who you are.


As a person who has needed these and been going on these retreats for over 14 years, they are rejuvenating. They have changed over the years, but they always meet a need; many times a need I didn’t even realize I had. I’m certain these retreats have been an instrumental part of my surviving being widowed and divorced and all that comes with it. And because it’s worked for me, I believe it can be of benefit to you.


Here’s the coolest thing about my helping plan a soul care retreat for you. We do not need to live around the corner in order for me to learn your preferences, your desires and your needs. Everything is done through the computer.

When you complete the retreat inquiry – here – we begin with a FREE 20-minute consultation via ZOOM. Once that’s completed, I reach back out to you within 48 hours to tell you which retreat I’m prepared to plan for you, glean your budget and set you up for victory. Your personalized itinerary comes to you in the days leading up to your trip. It includes a packing list, your soul care activities and more, depending upon the package you select.

Whether you’re on a staycation or taking a day off, I can build a personalized soul care retreat that will fit the time you do have and the season in your life.

Soul Care Retreat 2018
book your soul care retreat services by 05 December 2018 to receive 10% off

Complete an inquiry by 05 December and receive 10% off your selected retreat package.

Not a need for you at this time? Maybe you know your spouse or another couple who might benefit or someone that is taking a vacation or even planning a honeymoon. You can gift this opportunity to them.

I know. It may seem crazy to think about something like this now when you’re up to your elbows in starch and turkey wings making turkey stock, but trust me – when things are at the height of busy, with so much stress and potential overwhelm, it’s the perfect time to take a few moments to plan.

Be intentional, look ahead and let’s to tend to your soul.



Simply Sather

Instagram Challenge | Have Fun + Be Fun

Maybe this tip goes without saying but as you’re venturing into this challenge, have fun + be fun.

Throughout this challenge, there will be plenty of times for reflection and growth. That’s great! Really, that’s great.

But it’s not everything. I don’t want you to treat it like a homework assignment or a test or even like torture; even if some of the stuff is trying. That’s where we’ll be tempted to quit – when we start worrying about what we look like or what others may think or why our soul tending journey doesn’t look like someone else’s. That’s not funny. Or fun.

When you’re struggling, even a little bit, remember to make margin for having a little fun. Or laughing at yourself or with yourself.  Make space to be creative, unique or quite simply – just you! There is fun and humor within your soul and a lot of times, the stress, stuck + overwhelm stifles it. Before we know it, we look up and we haven’t cracked a smile or laughed deeply for far too long.

And y’all – that’s bad for your body, for your health, for your mind, for your soul.

We need to be fun + have fun. Not in every moment, but in many. Especially in the moments you wouldn’t normally think could be fun, try to approach it with a silliness that allows for a new experience.

Look ahead at the challenge now and see where you know you can loosen up a bit.

Maybe on Day 11 – you’ll color, doodle or draw something but do it with your less dominant hand or blindfolded or while dancing. I don’t know you and exactly what this ought to look like but I want to encourage YOU to consider how you can stir in healthy doses of fun along the way.

Tomorrow’s the big day! I hope you’re as excited as I am!

See you out there, Soul Tender.

Simply Sather

Instagram Challenge | Start with the End in Mind

I know, I know…

I’ve been posting about this Instagram Challenge a lot! Talking about it, telling stories, doing live videos on Instagram and guess what? I’M STILL EXCITED!!!

Instagram Challenge
my eyes, my eyes… but that view, that view – Columbia River, Washington State

You may have this kind of look on your face right now.

You know what I’m talking about…

That look when you’re squinting into the sun because you can’t really see but are still trying to smile and look cute in the general direction of the camera? Perhaps you’re even thinking, “what have I done?” or in this case, “what am I doing?” getting into this Instagram Challenge. You’re maybe having second thoughts or already figuring out why it won’t work for you or your schedule.

I get it.

And that’s why I’ll be sending you bits of encouragement and direction in your email in box these next five days, to help you leave anxiety and overwhelm behind. This challenge is not intended to invite any of that negative stuff, but is to help you stretch toward the good.

One way to get your mind and soul ready for this challenge is to start with the end in mind.

I was introduced to this concept for the first time when we were being taught the concept of Understanding by Design in my master’s degree program in education (2011).

This is my favorite definition:

Understanding by Design, or UbD, is an educational planning approach. UbD is an example of backward design, the practice of looking at the outcomes in order to design curriculum units, performance assessments, and classroom instruction.[1] UbD focuses on teaching to achieve understanding. It is advocated by Jay McTighe and Grant Wiggins in their Understanding by Design(1998), published by the Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development.[2][3] Understanding by Design and UbD are registered trademarks of the Association for Supervision and Curriculum Development (ASCD). | Wikepedia

What I appreciate most is that starting with the end in mind – “the practice of looking at the outcomes” – is not what most of us do on a regular basis and our results reflect it. It’s an unusual way of approaching things for many of us and it can be a bit tricky; it was for me.

I think we think we do this when we say we want to be this size before beach season or to purchase that thing if my hard-earned bonus comes. Whatever it is we want, we may not spend as much time considering the outcome and the impact on our soul to get there.

And while this may seem like just an Instagram Challenge and I really do want us all to have fun, if there is any part of you that wants to have any kind of success doing this, this is where I believe we need to start.

I knew the desired outcomes that would come from my facilitating this challenge before I put the prompts together. I have four of them.

The biggest one, my most important why, is to help people learn to pay closer attention to what is happening (or not happening) in their souls. The stuff below the surface, beneath the small talk and masks we barely know we’re wearing.

I’ve shared my biggest desired outcome, now it’s your turn.


Get someplace quiet for a few minutes and allow yourself to think about waking up on the first day of October.

Take a moment to even think about where this place might be.

While you’re in that space for 5 minutes or longer – nope, it is not selfish to take 5 whole minutes to yourself – close your eyes, if that helps, and think about what might be different on that day. Push yourself friend. What would you desire to be different as a result of your tending to your soul in September?

Be honest with yourself.

If this is your first time doing something like this, grab hold of whatever nugget, thought, or glimpse your soul may be longing for. Write it down on a post-it note, in your journal or leave yourself a voice note on your smartphone. However you can retain that seed, do it.

If you’ve done something like this before and know how it works for you to best determine what your desired end result is, do that. It hit me a bunch of years ago that I’d paid big money to learn this concept – thank you to Anna, my very patient group mate, for breaking it way down many times in multiple ways – and that I’ve used it more often in my personal life than I ever did in the classrooms.

The reason? Because my soul needed a place that I could dream and desire what I wanted separately from the schools I worked in or the companies I worked for. Strip away what you do – no matter how you feel about and dig a little deeper…

This is important y’all. And it’s another way of getting to your why.

Why would you participate in this? Become a part of this community? Call yourself a “Soul Tender”?

I get excited when I think about engaging with you via all of the avenues Instagram has to offer everyday in September. (Well, almost everyday – review Day 15.) I get pumped about having the opportunity to cheer you on, encourage you, help you question some things and seeing your creative, beautiful ideas in our hashtag – #soultendingSeptember – community. And I get most eager when I think of you digging into the why that helps you better understand your soul and what you’re tending to.

This the most important first step in preparing for this challenge. So go ahead, give your self permission to take 5 minutes or 30 if you can so we can do the work of tending to your soul and do it well.