Simply Sather

PLAN TO RETREAT: BEYOND THE HOLIDAYS

We’re going into the deep of the holidays now. You feel it?

We’re busy with the cooking, cleaning, shopping and inviting. Busy with all that comes with Christmas Cards, the ordering and shipping of packages and of course the decorating. Some of us are hosting, others of are traveling. The season is in full swing!

And with all that is happening, I believe that now is THE time to start planning a soul care retreat.

WHY WOULD I NEED A SOUL CARE RETREAT?

Even if you’re not sure what a soul care retreat is or how you would make one happen for you, let me share 10 reasons why I believe every adult qualifies for and actually needs a soul care retreat.

Read and mark a tally for each statement that is currently true or will likely be true for you as the holiday train picks up speed.

1. You are overwhelmed.

2. Your schedule/routine steals your joy.

3. You don’t know what to do when you have “free time” or “down time”.

4. You aren’t sleeping well.

5. You are so distracted you think you’re multi-tasking (and that it’s working for you).

6. You ate your last few meals (or more) standing over your sink or while driving in your car.

7. You’re unsure what your next step is.

8. You need a few dozen quiet moments in consecutive order; moments where people are not calling you by the role/capacity you serve them in (wife, mother, boss, employee, teammate, volunteer, daughter, friend)

9. You can’t recall the last time you set aside waking time to dream

10. Someone told you that you needed a soul care retreat

If you marked down one or more tally marks, then a soul care retreat is for you.

WHAT EXACTLY IS THIS RETREAT YOU SPEAK OF?

Simply put…

A soul care retreat is a time away from your routine. It is personalized for you, you + your spouse or a small team of 10 people or less. The personalized itinerary takes into account activities and environments that you enjoy, places that help you relax and rest and are designed to help you dig into what’s happening in your soul or the culture of your team’s dynamic.

I’ve planned the activities around getaways, vacations and retreats that have already been pre-scheduled, but I have retreat packages that include my planning your stay, making your reservations and even helping you to figure out where to eat.

Simply Sather Soul Care Retreats are designed to help you break away from stress, stuck + overwhelm in order to tend to your soul.

PLAN TO RETREAT

Many of us tend to the needs and desires of others.

We do this for our spouses, our children, our employees or co-workers. We do this as we lead small groups at church or teams where we volunteer. We give up hours and hours loving on, paying attention to and caring for everyone else.

Then we look up and it’s Thanksgiving and we’re making the mashed potatoes and gravy wondering when we’ll have some time to truly sit, rest our bodies and minds to think and reflect on what’s happening deep within ourselves. Or we bury the hope of having time to be bored, to allow our minds to wander or to take a nap without it being a “power” one.

Planning your retreat now makes it a priority. Even if it doesn’t happen until February next year, it gives you something to look forward to. An intentional time set aside for you and whoever will join you on this retreat to tend to your souls, to sit in silence and connect or re-connect on a level you haven’t had or made time for in the recent past.

I’ve planned four of these retreats in the last six months, but the first one I planned this year was our own. You can read about it here.

 

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It was a remarkable time for us. I know that I couldn’t stop talking about it to others. So much so that it became clear that I was to help others make time to tend to their souls in this way.

With our culture keeping us in yeses and filled spots on our calendar, it can be hard to wrap our brains around the idea of 48 to 72 hours off the grid to get away, break the routine and rest our souls. I plan and personalize a lot of the retreat based upon the retreat package you choose and pray for everything you desire to come to fruition; especially for you to have an encounter with your Creator that speaks to you in the depths of who you are.

Y’all.

As a person who has needed these and been going on these retreats for over 14 years, they are rejuvenating. They have changed over the years, but they always meet a need; many times a need I didn’t even realize I had. I’m certain these retreats have been an instrumental part of my surviving being widowed and divorced and all that comes with it. And because it’s worked for me, I believe it can be of benefit to you.

A DEAL FOR YOU

Here’s the coolest thing about my helping plan a soul care retreat for you. We do not need to live around the corner in order for me to learn your preferences, your desires and your needs. Everything is done through the computer.

When you complete the retreat inquiry – here – we begin with a FREE 20-minute consultation via ZOOM. Once that’s completed, I reach back out to you within 48 hours to tell you which retreat I’m prepared to plan for you, glean your budget and set you up for victory. Your personalized itinerary comes to you in the days leading up to your trip. It includes a packing list, your soul care activities and more, depending upon the package you select.

Whether you’re on a staycation or taking a day off, I can build a personalized soul care retreat that will fit the time you do have and the season in your life.

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Complete an inquiry by 05 December and receive 10% off your selected retreat package.

Not a need for you at this time? Maybe you know your spouse or another couple who might benefit or someone that is taking a vacation or even planning a honeymoon. You can gift this opportunity to them.

I know. It may seem crazy to think about something like this now when you’re up to your elbows in starch and turkey wings making turkey stock, but trust me – when things are at the height of busy, with so much stress and potential overwhelm, it’s the perfect time to take a few moments to plan.

Be intentional, look ahead and let’s to tend to your soul.

 

 

Simply Sather

Soul Tending: highlights week 1 + week 2 prompts

I’m so proud of you Soul Tenders!

While many (or most) are not posting publicly on a regular basis, I believe you’re doing the work on whichever day(s) you can and as you’re able. You should be so proud of yourselves.

Please remember…

If you weren’t doing any of the prompts on this list before this challenge began in September and you’re trying these new things then you’re already winning. You’re experiencing success! Claim it friend.

If you’re new to this space and you’re wondering what this is all about, jump over here to read about the soul care challenge before scrolling down to check out a couple of my favorites of YOUR posts in response to the each of the week 1 prompts.

It’s already been so fun, I’m really excited to see what you all come up with next week (the prompts for week two are at the bottom of this post) as you continue to intentionally + actively tend to your soul.

WEEK ONE HIGHLIGHTS

day 01 | go for a walk

day 02 | read a magazine

day 03 | sip your favorite drink slowly

day 04 | take a bath

day 05 | be a tourist in your city

day 06 | eat a meal outside

day 07 | engage with art

day 08 | dance in your kitchen

Now on to this coming week’s prompts. Maybe you’re returning and missed a few maybe you’re getting started…

No matter, I’m glad you’re here.

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truly, I’m glad you’re here!

Here are a couple of things I’d like you to keep in mind and the prompts for the second week.

1 | THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!

If you’re setting high expectations for yourself or focusing on “winning” at this, please let that go.

While you’re encouraged to stretch yourself and make margin in new areas of soul tending, the ultimate goal is to remove stress, stuck + overwhelm. Lean into the prompts that excite you and make you smile and put them on your calendar.

Invite your family, friends, neighbors and even co-workers to join you. In this case, the more people you know that are doing this the easier it’ll be – and the more fun too!

Don’t forget to snap a quick photo and when you’re on social media sometime that day (example: on the 9th of September, post your photo of the clouds).

2 | LOOK BEYOND THE MONTH, THINK LIFESTYLE!

Each day you’re able to participate, take a few extra moments to consider if that day’s prompt is something you’d like to revisit, restructure and add to your lifestyle.

Take a moment to journal and/or reflect each day. Ask yourself what you enjoyed or did not like about the activity and star the ones you’d like to repeat before the end of the year.

Think of this as a jumping off point to deeper work in your soul, for your benefit and the benefit of those you love.

WEEK 2 PROMPTS

10 | PLAY WITH A 2-YEAR-OLD

Don’t get legalistic or be too strict with this one. The idea is to spend time with a human much younger than you – a child way outside of your season in life. One of those people who relies on other humans for almost everything they need.

And to do it distraction-free. Put your phone away and get down to their level and simply observe them. Listen to them, ask them questions. Don’t teach or correct, just see them and their little big soul.

Enjoy that.

11 | DRAW, DOODLE OR COLOR

Just how it sounds.

Do this and let yourself push beyond the lines – if there are lines.

Crayola offers some adult coloring pages here!

And please, please, please post your photos. I’m excited to see what comes out of your soul.

12 | BAKE

Plan ahead for this one now. Go pull out that family favorite or hop on over to Pinterest to pick something you’ve pinned and have been wanting to try.

If you’re watching those lbs. be sure to consider baking something with the intent to give the bulk of it away.

13 | GO TO BED BEFORE (OR BY) 9P

You can do this y’all!

Our sleep is so quickly sacrificed in favor of so many other things and it ain’t good. This is a habit I’m becoming more diligent about and in a very short time, I’m reaping great benefits.

You don’t have to be asleep but try to be face-ready, hair-wrapped, pajama-dorned and in bed by 9:00p. If you’re married, encourage your spouse to join you; if you have roomies, challenge them to do the same.

You’re gonna love this one.

14 | CREATE A SOUL CARE PLAYLIST

After my son whipped up a playlist on Spotify – that we still listen to and enjoy today – I finally committed to a subscription and have not batted an eye.

Whatever way you put together a dozen songs to prepare you for whatever it is that you use music to set you up for, do the same for your soul.

If you’re on Spotfiy, please come and find me and be my friend and then also share your soul care playlist with me. I’ve made my list “collaborative” which means we can truly share!

15 | HAVE A “SOCIAL MEDIA FREE” DAY

This may seem ironic, but it’s intended to be.

Although we’re in this soul tending thing together – yes! – it’s okay to take a break every now and again.

I encourage you to this without telling anyone you’re doing so. Just take the day off. No Insta, no Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter or whatever else it is you use to consume stuff about other people and how they’re living.

This is easier for me now than it ever used to be. Mostly because I know why I’m using Instagram (and even have timers on my phone to know when it’s time to check-in – which hopefully explains my delays sometimes) it’s not as big of a deal to take a time off and I encourage you to really consider how it feels and how you can slide this into your regular routine.

16 | GET A MASSAGE

Whatever your budget permits – we’re doing the Dave Ramsey thing y’all! – make it work.

This might mean orchestrating one of those group circles with your co-workers where everyone rubs the shoulders of the person in front of them.

Ewww, no. Don’t do that.

But, if it’s rubbing your own feet or your hands together while breathing deeply – make.it.work.for.you.

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If you’ve been at this since day 1 and finding yourself wavering or unsure, maybe you’re talking poorly to yourself about your progress using words like “late, behind, mistake” then go back to this post and this one. Doing the steps there will help you be more successful in the soul tending process and more graceful with yourself when things don’t go as planned.

Be very careful how you speak to yourself while doing this, you may be sabotaging yourself.

Also, remember that this challenge is for you. For your soul. Share what you want, keep the rest to yourself and please know I’m praying for you Soul Tender. Have fun out there!

 

Simply Sather

Instagram Challenge | Review the list today

I’ve done this y’all.

In relationships, accepting jobs, buying a car and even some of my travel. I nod excitedly about the beginning and don’t look through to read the fine print.

Now that I’m married to a very detailed man, I’m getting better and want to encourage you to be more like us him.

So, for today’s Instagram Challenge preparation post, I want you to make a moment to look at the challenge in detail. Read each and every prompt.

Right now.

Yes, kind of bossy, but trust me.

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REVIEW THE LIST BEFORE YOU START

This step – reviewing the list before the start – is important to your soul tending success because we want to be sure you’ve got margin to win.

Whatever your goal(s) with this challenge, you will increase your chances of “winning” if you lay eyes on every prompt now before Saturday to give yourself a jumpstart. Doing this also helps you make margin for these things.

Making margin – in this case – means giving yourself permission and making room in your mind and schedule before you take on the act of tending to your soul each day. For example, I knew that day 2 of the prompt would include reading a magazine, so I looked through the ones I had and decided I wanted a new one, then bought the fall issue of Magnolia Journal and am holding on to it to bust open this weekend. I’ve already decided it’ll be while Mister (what I call my husband) is watching the U.S. Open – go Serena + Sloane!

My mind and soul is already making room in that day to enjoy flipping the pages and linger longer on the words because I’m doing this very intentional work for long-lasting benefit. I’m not being rigid or inflexible. And I don’t want you to be either.

Consider if it’s possible to switch some of the activities around to different days? Maybe it’ll work better for you to sip a drink slowly (#3), read a magazine (#2) and go to bed by 9p (#13) all on the same day because of a prior commitment or it just makes sense to you.

Go get your calendar and put it side-by-side with the soul tending list.

Which prompts on which days pose a potential threat to you reaching the SMART Goal you set? What can you start working in your mind, schedule, relationships, responsibilities now to make room to complete the tasks that you know will be good for you but you don’t have a clear plan to tackle?

This is where I get derailed every time.

Every.

Time.

I don’t take a few extra minutes to look all the way to the end of what I’m saying “yes” to in order to better anticipate roadblocks, stressors, setbacks and hurdles. If you give yourself a few minutes of focused thought – no multi-tasking here – you could probably eliminate some of the very things that may be laying in wait to keep you from continuing forward.

Come on Soul Tender!

Remember your why from day 1 of preparation and your SMART Goal from day 2. Doing this next step – taking time to look at the list today! – will put you closer to being ready to start, finish and succeed.

I believe in you and want to encourage you. Believe that your soul, your influence and your people will be better for it.