Simply Sather

date your spouse | play ping-pong

Keep in mind that the reason you take the time to “Date Your Spouse” has very little to do with how the date will actually turn out.

I’ve gotten better at lowering my expectations about the actual date in favor of focusing on being more present with my husband during these times. Yes, we’re officially “empty nesters” now – post to come – but it can be even more difficult to put the phone down and just be with my guy since I’ve begun to really focus on building our business.

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I didn’t go in planning to win; Mister owns his own ping-pong paddle.

So let me say, it took us a long time to find the table tennis place. It was on the map and shouldn’t have been difficult to locate but when we finally got there from lunch (a yummy Mexican place down the way) we figured out why it was so challenging to find.

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ping pong vs. table tennis – which is more serious?

It’s not the nicest place we’ve ever been to but it gets points for being intimate and uncrowded.

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they had hand sanitizer…
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well loved?

When we arrived, the owner was giving a table tennis lesson (I tried to pick up some pointers, but it did not help my game).

I’m not sure we’ll ever go back – though we now know how to get there – but we had a lot of fun.

Mister does not let me win when we play games – which I so very much appreciate. We laughed and had fun with the right amount of competition and celebration between us. I could have complained about the place, the smell, him not having clear directions, etc., but we did it. And it was memorable; so much so that I asked about the cost of a paddle for myself.

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mister + me; married + still dating

We made our ping-pong playing date a priority. And really, all the other stuff – though we stayed less than an hour – really wasn’t a big deal. I’m so very proud of us for dating one another. It’s so good; how we handled getting lost and having to circle the block several times as well as how to make the most of something when it doesn’t meet our expectations. We are stronger and better because of it.

It may not be ping-pong for you and your spouse, but go do something fun together!

And remember the most important thing is to put down your phone, see the other person soul (show them yours) and be a little silly with one another. Make margin for it people – you’ll learn more about your spouse (and yourself! – bonus!) and have fun too!


Simply Sather

date your spouse | bowl

And we’re off!

The first date of our 100 dates as husband and wife (how it works here) began with this one…

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our first date of the 100

Mister chose this one with enthusiasm.

He was ready to set the bar high and start our intentional dating fun off on the best foot.

So we headed to the newly built…


We’d both driven by it many times, but had never been.

In fact, in our 13 months together – we had not yet been bowling.

It was a 45 minute wait for the regular lanes, so we decided to splurge and have the V.I.P. experience for $12 more and no waiting.

always a gentleman

We got our own lane in a room set off from the rest of the place with 7 other lanes – only half of which were being used. For this easily extra sensory, easily overwhelmed person – this was actually a huge win.

can you tell which is which?

Neither of us are great bowlers and the one glass of wine we each had (Malbec for Mister and Pinot Noir for me) didn’t really help our already struggling games.

Mister + Beauty

It only seemed appropriate that we’d have some sort of science-y tidbit on the screen when playing, but it was also a big win when I got the courage to enter our nicknames.

Mister has been “Mister” since before we met. It’s how I prayed for him before I even knew who he was. When we finally met, I lined him up against the things I’d been praying for in a godly man/husband. Once I knew we were committed to one another, I kept calling him “mister” and it’s just stuck.

After our engagement, he started calling me “Beauty”.

It means so many things to him – not just about how I look, dress or present myself – but so many of the things that I have hidden from others because I was fearful of what they might do with my very vulnerable, sensitive parts and pieces. He shines a light on them and calls them beautiful and me, his “beauty”.

I entered our names on the screen, deleted mine and then decided to add it again – and leave it.

No one said anything and it mattered less and less what others might say in that hour; I was with my Mister and he was making me feel completely beautiful in his company.

apple bacon marinara flatbread + brisket with mac-n-cheese wrap with fries

Great food and wine, not-so-great service.

We had to ask for the simplest things multiple times – it just seemed they were not ready to provide V.I.P. service for the V.I.P. money we’d paid.

the Sathers bowl

Overall, we had fun.

We were cheerful and felt like kindred spirits but agreed we were sure we’d like to do a lot of other things before circling back to this one again.

I learned to celebrate after a good round of bowling and that we are fairly similar in our approach to games we don’t normally play, our style and willingness to attempt to compete. The trash talk (which we didn’t do very much of) was completely unnecessary – we were not great at this game. But, the laughter and connection that came from experiencing something familiar with one another was really special.