I hope you were able to glean a little something for yourself from Part One of this wonderful resource from Paul Scanlon, I keep talking about it to everyone who pretends to listen.
Here’s the second half of his “Top 10”!
S T R A T E G I E S: THE LAST FIVE
06 ALWAYS BRING YOUR A GAME (EVEN IF NO SEES IT THIS YEAR)
This one hit me in the gut.
Last year did not look at all like I would have guessed. I quit some things, started some things and got to participate in things I’d only dreamt of. And in much of what I was doing, I was not seen by many people. It scared me.
Because well, what if people don’t see they were wrong in how they labeled, treated or led me. Does anyone else ever think like that? Anyone else ever felt invisible?
Scanlon’s strategy humbled my butt. “Perform and share. Not for their benefit, but because it’s right and let God let people find you and your A-game because the world needs it. Don’t save it for later, be brilliant at being you.”
Healing words. Empowering words; just insert the theme music from Wonder Woman right here!!!!
I can’t do anything about how someone else behaves, but God and I are completely partnered up to do great things. I’m very excited about this one!
07 TRY TO UPGRADE YOUR MIND ABOUT 1 NEW THING DAILY
I do this often without realizing it…
Think consciously about something you “heard, read or saw” that day. The invitation is to go more deeply into whatever the one thing is. No need to share it, but really consider it rather than dismissing it.
Get to the place where you’re able to acknowledge that something is “interesting”.
08 SEEK EXPOSURE OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Scanlon shared a story about attending a charity event and being seated at the table with two lesbian couples. He was vulnerable by saying that it was uncomfortable. Rather than come with his agenda or plans to teach or sway them to godly thinking about their lifestyle, he listened and learned a lot.
What a way for us to build compassion and empathy, but instead we tend to lean towards people who believe what we do, think like we think and let us stay comfortable in our experiences. Well, and judgment – staying in our comfort zones help us be more quick to judge anyone who’s experience, perspective or mindset is different than our own.
Travel is a huge way to do this, I think that’s why I enjoy it so much, but we only travel a few times a year, so I am looking to be more proactive about stepping outside of my comfort zone with the films I watch, books I read, podcasts and sermons I listen to.
Time to break off the crusty.
09 EAT LESS, MOVE MORE!
The “eating less” part isn’t as much an issue as eating the right things. But, I was definitely convicted by the “moving” part; most of the things I enjoy doing are connected to being sedentary – reading, writing, scrolling…my husband was very happy to hear that this is one I intend to take more seriously.
More walking and talking with Mister in 2019!!!
10 TALK LESS & LISTEN MORE
This one is intriguing to me. Oddly enough, I believe I’m being called into sharing and talking more publicly and sharing more boldly than ever this year. So, I think this will need to be situationally – and something I will get to implement more intently with people I’m forging new relationships with (the master’s degree level will be applied when spending time with the young adults in our lives). I want to make room to hear what they’re not saying, to ask more questions and let them teach me what it’s like to walk in their shoes.
I hope to consistently help folks feel heard, seen and loved. Before they’re successful. Before they have a bunch of followers or fan approval. Right now. In their everyday living, I long to help people know they are being seen and loved. Scanlon recommended studying the book of James to grow in this. And if you’re looking, I know a friend hosting a digital small group on that book in the Bible, just comment below and I’ll give you more information.
Although the celebration and ringing in of the new year are long gone, I am remaining diligent about developing new habits and I believe these 10 strategies are going to help me do that.
Which of these last five strategies resonated with you?