Simply Sather

date your spouse | bowl

And we’re off!

The first date of our 100 dates as husband and wife (how it works here) began with this one…

14 | B O W L

our first date of the 100

Mister chose this one with enthusiasm.

He was ready to set the bar high and start our intentional dating fun off on the best foot.

So we headed to the newly built…


We’d both driven by it many times, but had never been.

In fact, in our 13 months together – we had not yet been bowling.

It was a 45 minute wait for the regular lanes, so we decided to splurge and have the V.I.P. experience for $12 more and no waiting.

always a gentleman

We got our own lane in a room set off from the rest of the place with 7 other lanes – only half of which were being used. For this easily extra sensory, easily overwhelmed person – this was actually a huge win.

can you tell which is which?

Neither of us are great bowlers and the one glass of wine we each had (Malbec for Mister and Pinot Noir for me) didn’t really help our already struggling games.

Mister + Beauty

It only seemed appropriate that we’d have some sort of science-y tidbit on the screen when playing, but it was also a big win when I got the courage to enter our nicknames.

Mister has been “Mister” since before we met. It’s how I prayed for him before I even knew who he was. When we finally met, I lined him up against the things I’d been praying for in a godly man/husband. Once I knew we were committed to one another, I kept calling him “mister” and it’s just stuck.

After our engagement, he started calling me “Beauty”.

It means so many things to him – not just about how I look, dress or present myself – but so many of the things that I have hidden from others because I was fearful of what they might do with my very vulnerable, sensitive parts and pieces. He shines a light on them and calls them beautiful and me, his “beauty”.

I entered our names on the screen, deleted mine and then decided to add it again – and leave it.

No one said anything and it mattered less and less what others might say in that hour; I was with my Mister and he was making me feel completely beautiful in his company.

apple bacon marinara flatbread + brisket with mac-n-cheese wrap with fries

Great food and wine, not-so-great service.

We had to ask for the simplest things multiple times – it just seemed they were not ready to provide V.I.P. service for the V.I.P. money we’d paid.

the Sathers bowl

Overall, we had fun.

We were cheerful and felt like kindred spirits but agreed we were sure we’d like to do a lot of other things before circling back to this one again.

I learned to celebrate after a good round of bowling and that we are fairly similar in our approach to games we don’t normally play, our style and willingness to attempt to compete. The trash talk (which we didn’t do very much of) was completely unnecessary – we were not great at this game. But, the laughter and connection that came from experiencing something familiar with one another was really special.